There is a difference between slaves and submissives but few, even the the submissives themselves can not detect the subtle difference. As a professional fem domme, theses differences are quite apparent and baffles us when the weak man doesn’t know how to catagorize himself. Because of this I have decided to create this post in case of any confusion for the inferior sex, the order of men.
I want to start by saying that all slaves are submissive but that doesn’t mean that all subs are slaves. A slave gives everything to their mistress (in my case Princess), despite the humiliation and degradation they will complete the order. Slaves do not mind doing things they find taboo or disgusting just so long as a smile is put on their Mistress’s face. Slaves literally live for their Mistress. Submissives have limits and will go far if not further than they would in any other circumstance but have definate boundaries that they will not cross regardless of the order the Mistresses gives them, though in my experience brides work well to get them to go further than they are truly willing to go. Some people still can not get the distinct differences so I will put forth a real life example of a slave vs a subby.
Lets place Chucky and Lou into exhibit. Chucky is a helpless sugar daddy who loves to throw money at me in order to keep me happy and living in the lap of luxury. No matter what I ask him to do for my amusement he will do. I have made Chucky get on cam and dance around like an idiot in women’s clothes while I laughed hysterically. Then I gently tease him and ask sweetly for $50 bucks for my perfect Princess pedicures. He caves while I recant about me and my girlfriends pillow fighting in short shorts while he watches. Though it takes a bit of coaxing, Chucky will do anything for his Princess and enjoys knowing I am amused and laughing. Chucky is a true submissive slave.
Lou on the other hand is a submissive but not a slave. Lou is sissy that longs for the chance to be publically humiliated by a pack of women who treat him like a sissy, then taken in the back to be fucked in the ass by a strap on. If the situation has anything to do with men Lou will back away and if pressed will run. Lou is definately not a slave but is submissive to superior women. Lou does want his Mistress to get some pleasure at his torture and humiliation but its still about his boundaries and comfortability at the end of the day.
To go further with this examination of the differences between submissives and slaves lets explain the mentality between the two. To be professional and good in this line of business and to get the best furfillment out of this, see I not only do a job but love and respect what I do hence why I do it, you must understand the client’s mind set and be able to get inside his head to know what is it he wants and what is it he needs.
A slaves mentality is complete defeat! He feels inferior and needs some one to know that he is defeated by femininity in what ever form it comes in; strap ons, panties, shoes, socks, humiliaton (by a sweet voice), makeup, tight flirty clothes, and a numerous amount of other things that drive men wild. Slaves long for acceptance and will go to an extremity to achieve it. It is even known for slaves to act out and break rules to get attention if they are neglected for any length of time. This behavior is known as acting out. They will try to enrage a Mistress in order to achieve any sort of attention they can as they are on a severe low and need to know they are still remembered. Once acknowledged they quickly repent and return to the life of servitude they are used. Becoming apologetic to stay in their Mistresses good graces. Slaves are the lowly losers we all remember from school, the geeks that looked at the popular girls and longed for attention.
Slaves are a lot like the above but will not go to any extreme to please a Mistress. Instead they set their boundaries and make it well known where they will not go and instead of their servitude as a lifestyle it is more of a fantasy. Their fantasy is easily shattered if pressed beyond their limits and usually the taboo things they are willing to do is not in public but behind closed doors. These guys have seen pornos or read magazines or articles about fetishes and fantasized about them often, though not completely serious about the fetish or being die hard they crave to be emersed in the fiction world they created in their head. These fuckers can be rather hard to understand sometimes as they will confuse the fetish in their head with what it is in reality, for example a foot fetish guy may believe that a true foot fetish slave will try and boss the Mistress around about her feet. Totally rude and crazed. Subs can look and act like just a macho man in public but be a complete bitch behind closed doors. Their fetish is not life style.
On a closing note, most guys I come across are just subs and not slave. A slave is a true treat for any mistress as its so much more fun to mold a slave into what ever you wish!
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